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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Jul 17, 20244 min read
How to Nail First Contact - 11 Things Adoptees and Birth Parents Should Know About Adoption Reunion
Adoption Reunion for Adoptees and Birth Parents involves preparing with adoption therapy, searching for birth family, and first contact
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Jul 7, 20243 min read
Adoptees: Why Reading a Book Might Change Your Life
For adoptees, the more we read the words of other adoptees, the stronger our thread of self becomes.
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 13, 20245 min read
The Cost of a Couch: Social Connection and Limitations Adoptees Face
Six months after I left Guam to deal with a family emergency, I returned to find two happy wagging tails at the door and the exploded...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 7, 20245 min read
To be Vulnerable - An Adoptee's Greatest Fear
A loud bang and clatter make me jump. I nearly drop the contact lens precariously balancing on my index finger, and as I lean forward to...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Feb 28, 20243 min read
Her
Birthmom. Bio Mom. First mom. Mama. When I was a very little girl, as young as five or six, I would play a strange, demented version of...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
Smile for the Photo
"You look so happy" they said, snapping the photo of me with my hands raised in the outline of a gingerbread man at a Christmas light...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20234 min read
Undoing the Danger
Looking back, it is clear that at the core of confusing family dynamic and parenting decisions my adoptive parents made was a deep...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
Grief: a lifelong companion
After seemingly hundreds of different documents, a hefty bank transfer, and no small amount of nerves, my partner and I finally posed for...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
Adoption Gives You a Different Life
I stumbled upon the social profile of an elementary friend I had lost touch with long ago. As I scrolled through the highlights of her...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
Learning to Live with Absence
Lately, I've been learning to live with a strange sort of absence. If you are an adoptee you may know what I mean. Tonight an indie movie...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Jul 5, 20222 min read
The Luxury of Having No Questions
A few years ago, I happened to be conversing with a new friend who asked me what I liked to do for fun. At the time, I was delving deep...
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 3, 20225 min read
Adoptees and Conflict
Adoptees and Relationships: How do adoptees deal with conflict? What are some ways adoptees can handle interpersonal relationship conflict?
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 3, 20225 min read
Birthday Part 2
Adoptive family and birthdays are a tricky component to navigate. Join me as I handle the reality of birthdays as an adult adoptee
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 2, 20225 min read
Birthday Part 1
Pre-birthday tension is actually very common for people who have been adopted. Here's what it's like for me, as a military spouse & adoptee
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Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 29, 20225 min read
You Didn't Hear Me Cry: Communication as the Adoptee's Deepest Wound
Although I am not a mother myself, I’ve browsed enough birth vlogs on YouTube to have a good idea of what happens when a baby is born....
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